Simply let my YES mean yes...

Simply let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. Do I live like this?

For me it has always been easy saying yes to whatever it is asked of me. However, half the time I immediately know, later I will not follow thru or I will do it without really wanting to and resenting it. I guess the main reasons are that I feel others will be disappointed or will not like me(seeking approval) if I say no.

I never learned to say no. I never learned that it is Ok to say no. I was under the impression that I must always be liked. And also under the impression that the more I said yes the more I would be liked(accepted). This can only last for so long. It is impossible to live under others expectations. In addition, people must like us for who we are, and not for what we do.

It sounds so easy and simple to say NO. Two little letters, but for me so difficult to say. I used to feel ultra guilty if I said NO to someone; I prefered to say yes. Nevertheless, it got to a point where I just didnt want to face people, cuz I had no strenght in me to keep saying yes.

My actions should reflect my thoughts and beliefs. I must not go against myself. I must be consistent with myself. At the end of the day, whom I have to deal and live with is me!

Saying yes all the time, makes me become a liar to me and others. If I follow thru then I am lying to myself and if I dont I have to make up excuses, in other words, lie. At the end nothing good comes out of it. Of course, I still feel uncomfortable when I say no. But, it only lasts a moment and afterwards I feel true and at peace.

Another downfall of always saying yes, is that I stopped recognizing what I really wanted. It got to the point, where I didnt know if I was saying yes out of habit or because I wanted. Today, I must take the time to get to know me again and listen inside of me.

In addition, my word is something very important. My word is me. There will be times where I wont be able to follow thru, but they will be minimal. It is just so liberating to do what your innerself is telling you to say.

Challenge of the day: I will let my yes mean yes and my no mean no. I will take the time to process my decisions. The habit of pleasing stops today.