Serenity and Patience...

How can my peace be lost in less than 10seconds? I always talk about tolerance, patience and serenity. However, there are oh so many times where those words just seem to vanish from my presence and I just go completely bananas. Nothing good comes from losing my center.

I notice that most people respond in a better way when we treat them with respect and niceness. Unfortunately, there are times when I forget this and just treat others in a not so appropriate manner. And yes, many times the other party has done something incorrectly, but that does not mean I have to lose my temper. There are better ways for me to express my feelings than with insults or raising my voice. Anger shatters communication, it does not help me bring my point accross.

Indignation and asking for what we deserve is correct. Many times my anger is misplaced. My anger is shown towards the person instead of the issue or problem. Anger does not let me think clearly. A gentle answer can calm a storm, but an angry one will strengthen it.

Once again I must not confuse this, with not being able to deal with my feelings. Anger is a part of us humans. I dont think that anger will disappear or that I will become above it. Nevertheless, I must learn to deal with it. Ignoring it, is as bad as letting it completely loose(extremes, not good).

I must learn not to speak when angry. Anger makes me be unreasonable. Anger makes me lose my balance. However, if we just stay there with it, we will notice that it as any other feeling passes us by. I must not feed it or ignore it, but acknowledge it. Then, what I must deal with is the issue that provoked this anger.

Dealing with my anger and expressing my indignation brings wonderful results. It is wonderful not being passive aggressive or an aggressive person. And although there are times when I am not successful at dealing with my anger; at night I try to let it go. One of the worst things is to keep that anger, to let it linger, to let it turn into resentment and just pent up anger. This is one of the many reasons it is so important to do a nightly inventory of our day and to let go so we can have a good nights sleep and restore our balance.

Challenge of the day: Today I will be aware of my anger and try to deal and express it in a healthy way. At night, I will let any left anger go.