How can my peace be lost in less than 10seconds? I always talk about tolerance, patience and serenity. However, there are oh so many times where those words just seem to vanish from my presence and I just go completely bananas. Nothing good comes from losing my center.
I notice that most people respond in a better way when we treat them with respect and niceness. Unfortunately, there are times when I forget this and just treat others in a not so appropriate manner. And yes, many times the other party has done something incorrectly, but that does not mean I have to lose my temper. There are better ways for me to express my feelings than with insults or raising my voice. Anger shatters communication, it does not help me bring my point accross.
Indignation and asking for what we deserve is correct. Many times my anger is misplaced. My anger is shown towards the person instead of the issue or problem. Anger does not let me think clearly. A gentle answer can calm a storm, but an angry one will strengthen it.
Once again I must not confuse this, with not being able to deal with my feelings. Anger is a part of us humans. I dont think that anger will disappear or that I will become above it. Nevertheless, I must learn to deal with it. Ignoring it, is as bad as letting it completely loose(extremes, not good).
I must learn not to speak when angry. Anger makes me be unreasonable. Anger makes me lose my balance. However, if we just stay there with it, we will notice that it as any other feeling passes us by. I must not feed it or ignore it, but acknowledge it. Then, what I must deal with is the issue that provoked this anger.
Dealing with my anger and expressing my indignation brings wonderful results. It is wonderful not being passive aggressive or an aggressive person. And although there are times when I am not successful at dealing with my anger; at night I try to let it go. One of the worst things is to keep that anger, to let it linger, to let it turn into resentment and just pent up anger. This is one of the many reasons it is so important to do a nightly inventory of our day and to let go so we can have a good nights sleep and restore our balance.
Challenge of the day: Today I will be aware of my anger and try to deal and express it in a healthy way. At night, I will let any left anger go.
lunes, 31 de agosto de 2009
sábado, 29 de agosto de 2009
My, my and mine!!!
How can we human beings be so self-centered? How can we think that so many things depend on us? Or that our way is the best way? Billions of people plus millions of miles of land, I dont dare to say how much water and other creatures there are; knowing and seeing all this still my first reaction is to give me all this fake responsibility and worse authority.
I have to stop trying to give my say in every situation. The world works just fine without my every single input! Today I will enjoy just being and sharing, and will try to just give my opinion where it is directly asked.
It is the weekend. I will enjoy. Have fun and just be me.
Challenge of the weekend: Have fun.
I have to stop trying to give my say in every situation. The world works just fine without my every single input! Today I will enjoy just being and sharing, and will try to just give my opinion where it is directly asked.
It is the weekend. I will enjoy. Have fun and just be me.
Challenge of the weekend: Have fun.
viernes, 28 de agosto de 2009
IF ONLY doesnt count... BAD HABIT
If only I was thinner, if only I was richer, if only I hadnt done that. I must stop when I start thinking the if only phrase. Nothing good ever comes out of it. If only s just make us sad and frustrated. So why would I want to torture myself?
If only s just take me away from the present. If only s take us to a land that doesnt exist and that sucks away all hope. My if only thoughts just keep telling the universe I want to keep on living in regret and hopelessness. Sadly, I used to spend many hours in the if only land. Today, I can say no good has come from it. So, why do I sometimes keep on dwelling on it?
It is the times when I want to be a victim, I dont want to do anything to change my situation, I havent forgiven myself or I want to escape from my reality.
But I want to take it a bit further, the if word must be left just for my scientific hypothesis. The IF word is not for me. It makes me want and think I can control life results. And as I have learned I am powerless in this area.
For example, I get all excited and say: If I start my diet today by next month I will have lost certain amount of weight. One month goes by, and the results are good, but not as great as my if had said. Therefore, I get all frustrated, angry and crazy and give up just because things didnt turn out the way I wanted. The if talks about the future, talks about a time I have no power over. I just have control over my person in the present.
The if is not real, is a hypothesis. And a hypothesis is something that has to be proven, it means that it can go either way. But for me, I used to think my hypothesis were always right. Therefore, many times I was just dissappointed. And the times were I wasnt; just kept reinforcing this crazy idea to keep living with my IFs.
My IFs made me live in a world of expectations, in a roller coaster world. The IF world, is a world of control, and sadly a fantasy world, LALAland. This does not mean I will stop hoping, dreaming and believing. Faith is wonderful and faith is a must in my journey for inner peace and growth.
Now, the if onlys and ifs must be replaced with faith and hope. For me, faith is the belief in something or someone we cant prove. What does this really mean? Honestly, I am still trying to figure it out. However, faith and hope give me a certain serenity and peace. The if onlys and ifs just leave me filling empty and disappointed. And that is a big difference for me.
I once heard a person ask another: how do you know you are acting the right way? The other answered: if you feel at peace with your actions, then you did act right. I loved it, it sounded pure and simple. However, in this busy world, filled with all its distractions where we have lost our true voice this is not that simple. Most of the time I did not know how I was feeling. I just responded with the feeling I thought I was supposed to feel. And so for me sometime ago I was completely out of touch with me, my reality.
Now, I have learned that it takes time to know my own feelings. However, I take it one day at a time. Everyday I try to work on just what I can handle, pushing but just a little bit, with love and understanding. Having the faith that I will get there gradually.
Challenge: I will count and be aware how many times and why I use my if onlys and ifs on this day. I will try and distinguish when my ifs are ok and when I am just setting myself up for disappointment and victimization.
If only s just take me away from the present. If only s take us to a land that doesnt exist and that sucks away all hope. My if only thoughts just keep telling the universe I want to keep on living in regret and hopelessness. Sadly, I used to spend many hours in the if only land. Today, I can say no good has come from it. So, why do I sometimes keep on dwelling on it?
It is the times when I want to be a victim, I dont want to do anything to change my situation, I havent forgiven myself or I want to escape from my reality.
But I want to take it a bit further, the if word must be left just for my scientific hypothesis. The IF word is not for me. It makes me want and think I can control life results. And as I have learned I am powerless in this area.
For example, I get all excited and say: If I start my diet today by next month I will have lost certain amount of weight. One month goes by, and the results are good, but not as great as my if had said. Therefore, I get all frustrated, angry and crazy and give up just because things didnt turn out the way I wanted. The if talks about the future, talks about a time I have no power over. I just have control over my person in the present.
The if is not real, is a hypothesis. And a hypothesis is something that has to be proven, it means that it can go either way. But for me, I used to think my hypothesis were always right. Therefore, many times I was just dissappointed. And the times were I wasnt; just kept reinforcing this crazy idea to keep living with my IFs.
My IFs made me live in a world of expectations, in a roller coaster world. The IF world, is a world of control, and sadly a fantasy world, LALAland. This does not mean I will stop hoping, dreaming and believing. Faith is wonderful and faith is a must in my journey for inner peace and growth.
Now, the if onlys and ifs must be replaced with faith and hope. For me, faith is the belief in something or someone we cant prove. What does this really mean? Honestly, I am still trying to figure it out. However, faith and hope give me a certain serenity and peace. The if onlys and ifs just leave me filling empty and disappointed. And that is a big difference for me.
I once heard a person ask another: how do you know you are acting the right way? The other answered: if you feel at peace with your actions, then you did act right. I loved it, it sounded pure and simple. However, in this busy world, filled with all its distractions where we have lost our true voice this is not that simple. Most of the time I did not know how I was feeling. I just responded with the feeling I thought I was supposed to feel. And so for me sometime ago I was completely out of touch with me, my reality.
Now, I have learned that it takes time to know my own feelings. However, I take it one day at a time. Everyday I try to work on just what I can handle, pushing but just a little bit, with love and understanding. Having the faith that I will get there gradually.
Challenge: I will count and be aware how many times and why I use my if onlys and ifs on this day. I will try and distinguish when my ifs are ok and when I am just setting myself up for disappointment and victimization.
jueves, 27 de agosto de 2009
The Universe connects us all...
OMG... I am amazed how the universe connects every one and everything. Universe? we all have our concept. Universe is just the balancing of energies. Our energies are thoughts, actions, beliefs. I believe that whatever we send into the universe it returns to us in some way or another.
However, sometimes we are so synchronized with it that things just return as we are thinking about it. Or our thoughts materialize almost instantly! I believe that comes as we are more and more entuned with our innerselves. As we progress to be at peace and harmony with ourselves; we are more and more nsync with the universe. This, today, has encouraged me to keep on focusing on my inner growth.
So, what happened? 2 separate incidents
1.Yesterday, my friends and I decided on finally starting a book club. One of my favorite books is A Course in Miracles. Last year, I bought some copies because that was supposed to be the beginning of our book club. However, as many plans; they stayed in the ¨we should¨ stage. So, now that we were really starting our little club I was short of one book. And this morning I get an email from a friend I had lent the book, saying she was ready to return it! I hadnt spoken to this friend since I lent her the book a long time ago. This is what I call being nsync with the universe!
2.Today I wanted to talk about the terrible habit of thinking and using the IF ONLY and the dangers of the IF word. My very own first comment received talks about this!!! Therefore, tomorrow I will definetely address this issue.
This happenings just make me much more aware on the power of my thoughts and actions. All my thoughts and actions have an effect on what I am living today. If I want things to change; I have to change. No going around it! I must work everyday on myself.
Now, I must always keep in mind that the universe cannot create or destroy energy; but there is a Higher Power that can. What do I mean by this? I used to be a creature that believed in life as a pure science. Doing one thing will guarantee results, completely wrong!!! Life is just misterious and inexplicable. After, I realized that : doing didnt guaranteed results, I stopped doing completely. Extremes are not good. We must keep doing, not for the sake of the results, but because it is what our real self wants to do.
We must want to change not because of what we will gain from the outside world, but for what we will gain from within. I am not always at peace with myself, but when I am(mostly after praying, sharing with a friend, meditating) it does not matter what the world looks like I am just so content.
I have chosen thursdays to be me day. First I will do something for myself. I went for a hair treatment. Then I went to my spiritual group meeting. Thursdays is a receiving day for me. We cannot always give and give; we have to learn to receive. And once we decide to accept and extend our arms, how magnificent it is. It is not selfish at all. On the contrary, I finally learned that I cannot give what I do not have. So, first I must receive to be able to give.
Challenge of the day: I will learn to receive a compliment, a smile, a hug from others, myself or the universe. Be aware of receiving, we always have the opportunities, but thinking we do not deserve it we have even lost the ability to recognize this true blessings.
However, sometimes we are so synchronized with it that things just return as we are thinking about it. Or our thoughts materialize almost instantly! I believe that comes as we are more and more entuned with our innerselves. As we progress to be at peace and harmony with ourselves; we are more and more nsync with the universe. This, today, has encouraged me to keep on focusing on my inner growth.
So, what happened? 2 separate incidents
1.Yesterday, my friends and I decided on finally starting a book club. One of my favorite books is A Course in Miracles. Last year, I bought some copies because that was supposed to be the beginning of our book club. However, as many plans; they stayed in the ¨we should¨ stage. So, now that we were really starting our little club I was short of one book. And this morning I get an email from a friend I had lent the book, saying she was ready to return it! I hadnt spoken to this friend since I lent her the book a long time ago. This is what I call being nsync with the universe!
2.Today I wanted to talk about the terrible habit of thinking and using the IF ONLY and the dangers of the IF word. My very own first comment received talks about this!!! Therefore, tomorrow I will definetely address this issue.
This happenings just make me much more aware on the power of my thoughts and actions. All my thoughts and actions have an effect on what I am living today. If I want things to change; I have to change. No going around it! I must work everyday on myself.
Now, I must always keep in mind that the universe cannot create or destroy energy; but there is a Higher Power that can. What do I mean by this? I used to be a creature that believed in life as a pure science. Doing one thing will guarantee results, completely wrong!!! Life is just misterious and inexplicable. After, I realized that : doing didnt guaranteed results, I stopped doing completely. Extremes are not good. We must keep doing, not for the sake of the results, but because it is what our real self wants to do.
We must want to change not because of what we will gain from the outside world, but for what we will gain from within. I am not always at peace with myself, but when I am(mostly after praying, sharing with a friend, meditating) it does not matter what the world looks like I am just so content.
I have chosen thursdays to be me day. First I will do something for myself. I went for a hair treatment. Then I went to my spiritual group meeting. Thursdays is a receiving day for me. We cannot always give and give; we have to learn to receive. And once we decide to accept and extend our arms, how magnificent it is. It is not selfish at all. On the contrary, I finally learned that I cannot give what I do not have. So, first I must receive to be able to give.
Challenge of the day: I will learn to receive a compliment, a smile, a hug from others, myself or the universe. Be aware of receiving, we always have the opportunities, but thinking we do not deserve it we have even lost the ability to recognize this true blessings.
miércoles, 26 de agosto de 2009
How can flowers be so beautiful?
I have always adored flowers. Why, well their colores, their chickness, their allure and just the way they make me feel alive and happy. I love almost all flowers; however, button roses and sunflowers just make me completely gaga. Button roses are just cute and sexy and full of promise. Then the sunflowers. They just remind me of life, sun and God. I love sunflower fields; for me they are heaven on earth. They make me realize how truly amazing life is.
We are like flowers. We need time to grow, water, food, rest, and love. There are times when we are just blooming and other times when we are just resting. I tend to forget the resting part from time to time, well almost all the time. I used to think I needed to be just out there, vibrant, full of life, wonderful and perfect. Well, it took me some time to finally understand it is just quite impossible. However, I decided to go into full dormant mood after being so tired of always trying to be amazing. But, total extremes have done me no good. Today, I know that I like flowers have seasons, but that changes are gradual!!! Changes are gradual, not instant and cant be pushed.
I have seen in little time how my attitude has made changes within me and my surroundings. I have made errors, colosal errors I am not proud of. But, until I decided to own them, step up to them, confront them I could not get away from them, and to my chagrin I kept repeating them!
I also finally decided to forgive myself. To let the past go, and be the best I can to me and those whove I hurt the most and the universe in general. But most importantly, I will try not to do things because what I will gain, but because they are what my real self wants to.
Challenge: I will be greatful for my loved ones. I will try to listen and not talk so much. I will not give advise when it is not requested; I will just be there. God exhorts me to always watch my words and thoughts.
We are like flowers. We need time to grow, water, food, rest, and love. There are times when we are just blooming and other times when we are just resting. I tend to forget the resting part from time to time, well almost all the time. I used to think I needed to be just out there, vibrant, full of life, wonderful and perfect. Well, it took me some time to finally understand it is just quite impossible. However, I decided to go into full dormant mood after being so tired of always trying to be amazing. But, total extremes have done me no good. Today, I know that I like flowers have seasons, but that changes are gradual!!! Changes are gradual, not instant and cant be pushed.
I have seen in little time how my attitude has made changes within me and my surroundings. I have made errors, colosal errors I am not proud of. But, until I decided to own them, step up to them, confront them I could not get away from them, and to my chagrin I kept repeating them!
I also finally decided to forgive myself. To let the past go, and be the best I can to me and those whove I hurt the most and the universe in general. But most importantly, I will try not to do things because what I will gain, but because they are what my real self wants to.
Challenge: I will be greatful for my loved ones. I will try to listen and not talk so much. I will not give advise when it is not requested; I will just be there. God exhorts me to always watch my words and thoughts.
martes, 25 de agosto de 2009
Finding Balance...
First day, check!!! This is a great feeling finishing a good day. Of course, it was not easy.
I read today that it is way better to finish something than starting it. It really hit me, I love to start things, the rush, the excitement; but most of them are left in the initiation process. Others, halfway and almost zero to none I finish. However, I plan on finishing this day!!!
It always seems so much easier and gratifying to go over any fast food drive thru. However, this is just an illusion. It is not easier on my budget, not easier on my body and definitely not easier on my self estime. Sabotaging will not be tolerated today. I choose to be good to myself.
This is how I choose to live today, this moment. Today I choose to be good to my body, my soul, and my world. I choose to stop my horrible thoughts when I look at the mirror and replace them with: I am fine just the way I am. I know that today that is all I can say to myself, but I am faithful that with time I will be able to say nicer things.
I have decided to try one nutritional diet each month. My challenge of the month is to give the special K diet a true shot. I have decided to try 6 different diets throught out a 6 month period. Results will be measured on weight percentage lost not actual weight lost.
As I said before success is measured on little steps and a day to day basis. Just today counts. Will I do my best effort today? I plan to stick to my plan just for today. Yesterday has passed and tomorrow has not arrived.
How is it that I can be so dedicated to work? But not dedicate any time to myself? I always say I never have time to do many things. I dont have time to call a friend, I dont have time to do my hair or have a mani-pedi, but I always seem to find time to veg out and eat out. Ironic, huh?
Jesus said it is more important to purify a cup from the inside than the outside. That I must keep in mind. It is important to care for my body, but it is so much more important to care for my soul. How do I plan to do that? Helping others, reading, meditating, sharing, and watching what comes out of my mouth. Of course, not all at the same time. I must remember, baby steps and I am learning. All it takes is a bit of effort and will to try.
I am impressed on how many horrible things can come out of such a small hole. Sometimes I get carried away and without really thinking say things I later regret. And words, cannot be taken back, once they have been said, they are out there. So I wil be careful on what I say to myself and others on this day.
I read today that it is way better to finish something than starting it. It really hit me, I love to start things, the rush, the excitement; but most of them are left in the initiation process. Others, halfway and almost zero to none I finish. However, I plan on finishing this day!!!
It always seems so much easier and gratifying to go over any fast food drive thru. However, this is just an illusion. It is not easier on my budget, not easier on my body and definitely not easier on my self estime. Sabotaging will not be tolerated today. I choose to be good to myself.
This is how I choose to live today, this moment. Today I choose to be good to my body, my soul, and my world. I choose to stop my horrible thoughts when I look at the mirror and replace them with: I am fine just the way I am. I know that today that is all I can say to myself, but I am faithful that with time I will be able to say nicer things.
I have decided to try one nutritional diet each month. My challenge of the month is to give the special K diet a true shot. I have decided to try 6 different diets throught out a 6 month period. Results will be measured on weight percentage lost not actual weight lost.
As I said before success is measured on little steps and a day to day basis. Just today counts. Will I do my best effort today? I plan to stick to my plan just for today. Yesterday has passed and tomorrow has not arrived.
How is it that I can be so dedicated to work? But not dedicate any time to myself? I always say I never have time to do many things. I dont have time to call a friend, I dont have time to do my hair or have a mani-pedi, but I always seem to find time to veg out and eat out. Ironic, huh?
Jesus said it is more important to purify a cup from the inside than the outside. That I must keep in mind. It is important to care for my body, but it is so much more important to care for my soul. How do I plan to do that? Helping others, reading, meditating, sharing, and watching what comes out of my mouth. Of course, not all at the same time. I must remember, baby steps and I am learning. All it takes is a bit of effort and will to try.
I am impressed on how many horrible things can come out of such a small hole. Sometimes I get carried away and without really thinking say things I later regret. And words, cannot be taken back, once they have been said, they are out there. So I wil be careful on what I say to myself and others on this day.
lunes, 24 de agosto de 2009
First day. Really?
I dont know how many first days of my new life Ive had; it seems that everytime I get excited about leaving my bad habits behind for good. Mostly, they are just left dormant. I feel good for sometime, and then without really noticing I am back to my old self. Ive read that habits take 6 weeks to get rid off. Well, I do not fit in the 6 weeks curve, cuz to this day my bad habits are still haunting me.
My challenge is not to get rid of bad habits. My challenge is a bit ambitious. I want to change my entire life. I want to live the life I dream of. I want to be the person I know I can be, but am to lazy and afraid to be. I want to be at peace and the best that I can be.
I have noticed that people that really change, dont change overnight. But most importantly change everyday. These rare creatures try every single day. Yes, it is a day to day job. And, there is where I have failed. I have never been a very commited person, but well I must start today and keep trying everyday.
There are so many things I would love to say, but that is the beauty of this. I can!!!
I am a single girl that got lost in all the pleasures of life. I got lost in the instant gratifications of life. And a decade later I found out that instant gratifications, just last an instant!!! If I want permanent it takes hard work. There is no going around it.
However, this time I want to enjoy the process. I want to be happy in the now. I want to live in today. I dont want to live in the past or in the future. It is easier said than done, but it does not mean it is impossible.
Todays challenge: Food. I plan on only eating what my body really needs.
why? I want to feel good about myself and I want to respect my body if I want it to respect me.
My challenge is not to get rid of bad habits. My challenge is a bit ambitious. I want to change my entire life. I want to live the life I dream of. I want to be the person I know I can be, but am to lazy and afraid to be. I want to be at peace and the best that I can be.
I have noticed that people that really change, dont change overnight. But most importantly change everyday. These rare creatures try every single day. Yes, it is a day to day job. And, there is where I have failed. I have never been a very commited person, but well I must start today and keep trying everyday.
There are so many things I would love to say, but that is the beauty of this. I can!!!
I am a single girl that got lost in all the pleasures of life. I got lost in the instant gratifications of life. And a decade later I found out that instant gratifications, just last an instant!!! If I want permanent it takes hard work. There is no going around it.
However, this time I want to enjoy the process. I want to be happy in the now. I want to live in today. I dont want to live in the past or in the future. It is easier said than done, but it does not mean it is impossible.
Todays challenge: Food. I plan on only eating what my body really needs.
why? I want to feel good about myself and I want to respect my body if I want it to respect me.
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